Dr. Judy comments on WCBS TV News Story: Experts Say Weekends Away From The Kids Can Be Beneficial For A Couple And The Family
NEW YORK (CBSNewYork) — A celebrity couple recently admitted that they hand their kids off to someone else on Fridays so they can have the weekend to themselves.
As CBS2’s Vanessa Murdock reported, the revelation sparked a firestorm on the web.
Australian model Rachael Finch and Michael Miziner have a beautiful daughter named Violet. Finch recently revealed that the 2-year-old spends every weekend at her grandmother’s.
“We get our weekend to ourselves. I think that’s incredibly healthy for the relationship, and on Sunday when we pick her up we have 100 percent energy back,” she told Australia’s ‘Sunday Style.’
New Yorkers seemed to think the tactic was a bit extreme.
“It’s a little extreme. I don’t think I’d do it every weekend,” Lauren said.
But she added that it’s important that her family be involved with raising her children.
“I’d be very happy to take care of my grandkids at any given time, but I think every week is too much,” her mother-in-law Debby said.
Amber Chess said after having kids she’s learned not to judge.
“Part of me deep down inside thought it was kind of a good idea. I felt a little guilty,” she said, “It’s really really difficult, and everyone handles it differently.”
Her 3-year-old Gemma made it clear; she does not want to be sent to grandma’s every weekend.
Jane Blumberg said she would embrace spending more time with her 2-year-old granddaughter Sylvia.
“I would love it actually,” she said.
The arrangement didn’t sit as well with some of Finch’s followers on instagram who accused her of “part time parenting,” being “irresponsible, selfish, and stupid,” and using her child “as an accessory.”
Finch defended the couple’s decision and emphasized the relationship between Violet and her grandmother.
“One of the most important and influential relationships growing up,” she called it.
Clinical psychologist Dr. Judy Kuriansky said there are positive advantages for the child and grandparents.
“I think it’s a great idea for their sex life. If you want to keep your sex life alive it’s a very good idea to take those mini vacations from the kids,” she said, “You have to take into account; how much does my child really need me?”
Dr. Kuriansky said the relationship between the child and grandparent can be wonderful.
In the end it’s a personal, family decision.